God created the woman to be adored. Her body was carefully formed after all God’s other creations had been manifested. He tailored woman specifically to be the object of admiration for the man. Eve abused that when she ate and gave of the forbidden fruit to Adam. Her punishment was particularly harsh. When God issued the parameters for Eve’s fallen state, He cursed her saying, in Genesis 3:16c, “…thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” And so she was stripped of her original position of favor and co-leadership, bound to a perpetual state of hunger towards her husband, and forced to submit to his rulership.
This is why it’s so imperative that a Kingdom woman who chooses to be a wife safeguard her position here on earth by choosing a Kingdom man worthy of her submission. It’s foolish to select a husband who cannot provide a spiritual covering, one who’s not concerned with the things of the Father and of His Word. Excellence in choice of a wise earthly king is done through one means alone, and that’s submission to the Heavenly One.
Verse 3 of Lonely Queens of the Thearchy reads:
I fully understand woman’s desire for man
As the latter fulfillment of Eve’s wretched curse
But we burden ourselves in triplicate
Not pursuing our gift passions first.
Lonely queens of the thearchy have a tendency to add an element of hardship to the already existing burden. We’re called to submit to HUSBANDS, not boyfriends, boyfriend possibilities, or the boyfriend potential we’re always waiting to see manifested. Yes, we were created to want the attention, protection, and care of a husband, but we’ve allowed ourselves to be so distracted by that desire, we’re prostituting it for whichever man happens to be in the process of tossing us a crumb. Total compromise. We’ve taken “thy desire shall be to thy husband” and applied it to any interesting carrier of testosterone that swaggers by. We’ve taken “and he [husband] shall rule over thee” and thrown ourselves under the want of our own desires. This should not be.
So what do we do in the meantime? Submit to a perfect King. Submit to God and allow Him to introduce us to ourselves. We should be excavating our gifts & talents and allowing that excavation to point us in the direction of OUR purpose & passions. We’re exhausted and frustrated because we’re focused on the wrong thing. It’s not about a man. On the realest note, it’s not even about us finding husbands.
Proverbs 28:22~ He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor of the Lord. Kingdom kings are called to be the searchers here, not us. But logically, how can the wife be found of the husband when she is out of place? I can search the whole house for my keys but if they’re in the car, well, you get the gist. When the woman is detached from her purpose & the will of God for her life, she makes the man’s hunt that much more difficult. If the wife was created to be the help meet for the husband, then it’s only logical that he’ll find his wife as he pursues his purpose, too. Marriage is a partnership of complement, anything less won’t last happily.
The Kingdom queen who searches God to find herself IS preparing herself for marriage. We’re called to be help meets for our husbands. How can we be fit for the role when we’ve not submitted to being instructed and perfected for the task? We’re found of our husbands when we’re committed to being in the position of purpose. Marriage is the ultimate ministry. Emptying ourselves of all the glory God placed in us is the ultimate praise. Ministry without praise is not ministry at all. It’s just a gathering.
Kingdom queens, let’s submit to God so He can pour us out of ourselves and into the lives we pray for, the ones we long for. Our heart’s desires are not a trick, they’re evidence of the truth of what the Father has prepared for us.
The world, sometimes even the church, will tell you there’s a shortage of men, your chances of getting a husband, especially a good one, are so nil to none, you should just compromise. That you should yoke yourself to whatever man is willing to breathe in your space for however long he’s willing to do so. Don’t do it. Don’t further burden the state of your womanhood. Remember that we don’t live by the world’s statistics and its projected outcomes. We walk by faith, not by sight. Faith is believing in God to the point that we know we shall one day behold our hopes. Faith is not budging and it’s certainly not compromise.
We must go deeper in God to learn more of ourselves. We must learn more of ourselves in order to experience the freedom to celebrate our own unique expression of talent & passion that otherwise shall never be known. This is the path to our purpose. And the more we submit ourselves to the pursuit of unveiling our gift passions, the more we come out of hiding to be easily found of our man.
Blessings & Strength,